Live and Let Live!

I’ve been thinking  about my death ever since the Sydney siege. I knew something bad was going to happen in Australia, it was just a matter of time before it happened. There were too many warning signs. The influx of Muslims in the country, the increasing number of Australian Muslims leaving to fight for the ISIS and so on.

Singapore is very similar to Sydney in many ways. We have a multi cultural society, an influx of new immigrants and a cosmopolitan city. Have we been taking our national security and national defense for granted? Well, I have been. I’ve always felt Singapore was safe and always will be. What else do you expect a girl, who has grown up in one of the world’s most safest country to feel?


Ever since the Sydney hostage incident, something has changed. Well for a start, I don’t sit indoors in a cafe anymore. I sit out doors. As foolish as it sounds, I feel so much more comforted doing that. But such an incident can happen anywhere and anytime?! What right has someone got to inflict so much of fear onto others? Who are these people to make others conform to their believes and ideologies?

I can’t imagine how those parents who lost their children in the Peshawar shooting would feel. Every religion is peace loving and those children were innocent. Notice how there wasn’t  much of  media attention on that case as compared to the Sydney siege? Why? Because it is fine for Muslims to kill each other but not kill non Muslims? Why wasn’t there much backlash from the peace loving Muslims around the world. Why hasn’t someone started a movement against the Taliban and the terrorist?


The world has to stand together against terrorism. Muslims have to be more vocal to radical Muslims. They have to voice their opinions and get them the help needed.

Something has to be done soon. Life is not easy and we don’t need people with idealistic theories to rule our lives.




My private driving instructor.

I used to blame myself for being a late bloomer and not achieving much. Nothing I achieved was ever enough to make me feel like I could have done better.

After deferring my degree course  for a few semesters, I’m finally at it again. I’m happy with the course I took and I’m enjoying my education. (What was I thinking when I initially enrolled to do my degree in Economics and Finance?) I have the attention span of a 3 year old and who the hell cares about the finance industry? I remember my essential writing skills lecturer telling us that at the tertiary level, it’s no more about studying. It’s about expanding your knowledge. That was one of the best advice I’ve received in the longest time.

Most of my friends are married. Heck! Some even have children. I’m 29, happily in a relationship for the last 8 months. My boyfriend’s parents have never met me but they HATE me. That’s another story for another time.

One of the things that we have to get in your 20s, is your driving license. In Singapore, cars cost as much as $50,000. For a ridiculously tiny island, everything is so bloody expensive. The worse part is that the government invites rich expats to live in this country and squeeze in with.

Anyways…….I finally told myself I will get a driving license this year. I joined a school (SSDC) and paid a few hundred dollars. It was near impossible to get a slot of my schedule. Classes were bloody expensive and instructors weren’t that fantastic. I contemplated on switching to take private lessons instead. Most of my friends were against it. They advised me to stick school because passing rate was better and they compared it to the whole thoery of taking your O’levels as a private and a school candidate.


I scoffed when I heard such comments. Typical Stupid Singaporean Kiasu Attitude!

1. If you know how to drive and you don’t break any rules during your driving exam, there is no way in hell you will fail.

2. If you can’t drive, you will FAIL.

Anyways, somehow, my motivation wained and I gave up. Manual geared cars are f***ed up! I never got the techniques right and my feet ached all the time. I hated driving lessons and eventually gave up.

After a few months of doing nothing at all, I decided to take driving licence again. But this time it was AUTO car! Driving an auto car is a breeze. I’ve been having fun.  My instructor has been very encouraging and if I don’t panic and shiver during my Traffic Police exam, I should be able to pass. Heck! I will pass! I need to achieve this!


Someday, I hope to drive up to Malaysia or Thailand and feel in control. I will I will I will pass! 

Wish me luck!

Why are people selfish?

Everyone abhors selfish people. But I believe it’s an innate nature in humans and some of us are able to suppress it better then others. How do you react when people you consider are your friends act selfishly towards you?

1. Get mad pissed and start a blog? Lol!

2. Scream and throw a fuss that  you are pissed? It doesn’t work. Selfish people will always be selfish and trying to reason or explain their actions is not necessarily going to work.

3. stop being friends with them? – They are selfish….but that doesn’t mean they are evil.

Strangely, I’ve noticed how selfish people are loved and accepted. So, do you believe that because their loved ones are able to tolerate  and adapt to their characteristics, they are actually nurturing the selfishness instead of suppressing it?

If a boyfriend tells his girlfriend that she is out rightly selfish with her thoughts and actions, do you think she would actually watch her actions in future and consider a task before she does? Or, would that not work and eventually they would break up?

I’m not a psychologist but I strongly believe that we should not condone it if someone decides to be selfish. We need to tell them, explain to them and let them know that their action is wrong. 

How would one change themselves if you don’t tell them?